Have you ever said something like:
“My husband is arrogant, obnoxious, angry, stubborn, critical, cruel, and self-absorbed?”
Or perhaps: “He is lazy, unmotivated, selfish, and uncaring.”
Your words have aided and abetted the demonic kingdoms plan to steal your husband’s identity. The one person you want to see change is being held captive in a jail cell of your word curses.
I hear it all the time, “I am only telling the truth about what is going on in my marriage.”
But it’s not the truth at all; it is a lie that you are helping to reinforce.
The facts may be the facts, but they are far from the truth of God’s original purpose for your husband. When you speak facts such as these, you are agreeing with the counterfeit identity Satan has established for your spouse! You are agreeing with the lie.
Words have power and that power is in your tongue to either speak life or death. (Prov. 18:21)
If you have fallen prey to this tactic of the enemy, chances are you feeling a somewhat convicted about now, and that’s a good thing. That means you are not rationalizing or justifying your past judgments and your heart is softened and ready to change your perspective!
How To Undo What You Have Done!
- Always begin with repentance. God hears the prayers from the humble of heart. Begin by praying; “Father, I confess that I have spoken word curses of judgment over my husband. I repent for agreeing with the lies of the enemy that have overshadowed the truth of your purpose for him.”
- Break the word curses. “Father, I cancel every word curse of (list) that I have spoken over my husband in the name and blood of Jesus Christ. I break all agreement with those word curses and declare that they will have no power over my husband and from this day forth I purpose in my heart to speak words of life and not death.”
- Ask God for His perspective. “Father, I need to see your perspective of my husband. Please fill me with your Holy Spirit and cause my thoughts to line up with your thoughts, my desires to reflect your desires, and my heart to love as your heart. I ask that you give me the “Eyes of Christ” to see life not death.”
This wake-up call is a great starting point for change, and that change always starts with the most mature partner.
Chances are, however that a spirit of bitterness is at the root of your anger and you will need some help in removing it. Competent Christian counseling, that can help you communicate your unmet needs and get to the roots of strongholds that are sabotaging your marriage, should be your next step.
If you don’t have access to counselors you trust locally, we are just one click away via internet counseling.