Do you find communication with your mother impossible without conflict and criticism? Has your relationship with her moved from tolerance to avoidance? Do you dread seeing or calling her?
Have you screamed, “I do not want to be like my mother!” but are concerned because you are seeing these repeated patterns in your life?
Welcome to the generational mother/daughter parenting trap.
Mother/daughter relationships are heavily influenced by the preceding generations.
What is lacking in your relationship with mom, is probably something she would say was lacking in her life with her mother. Of course, times change and the stress factors are different, but the spiritual tormentors at the root of the problems are the same.
If your mother disrespected her mother and rebellion was involved, you likely had a season of the same behavior. Perhaps, you are experiencing rebellion and/or disrespectfulness now with your children.
Sin that comes in with one generation can visit the 3rd and 4th generations. (Exodus 20:5)
We often see the lack of nurturing in one generation bring abandonment, rejection, and neglect in the next.
Sexual or emotional abuse erects strongholds of fear and distrust.
Your mother, like you, probably did as well as she could under the circumstances. But God wants you to have all you need to stop this cycle of torment.
Once you recognize the cycle of sin repeating from generation to generation you can take action to heal your relationship through deliverance and counseling.
During the first appointment, I always listen for the repeating pattern of sin that allowed in spiritual torment. Then I ask the client to describe their mother’s life to me. That is where revelation exposes the roots of the torment.
One of my clients described her life as a yo-yo being shuffled back and forth between her mother and her grandmother. Her security was continually disrupted by this, but when she looked at her mother’s life, she was able to see the same thing happening due to abuse.
Her biggest fear, revealed during deliverance ministry, was that she did not want to parent like her mother. Although she was trying to conceive, she could not. God did a mighty work that day; she is now free and expecting her first child! Read her complete testimony here: Freedom From Generational Mother Issues And Infertility
If you want to understand the consequences of generational sin, sit down with your mother, if you are able, and ask questions about her childhood. Dig deeper than you have in the past. Ask God to reveal how her upbringing affected the way she dealt with you.
To assist you in opening up lines of communication with your mother, you may want to read my blog on “7-Keys to Improving the Spiritual Atmosphere in your home found here:
This article will give you some insights to help you take authority over any tactics of the enemy in advance of this conversation.
If you already know these answers, perhaps it’s time for you to seek deliverance counseling to remove the root of demonic oppression in your family tree. If you don’t do it for your life, then do it for your children and your grandchildren.