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You are here: Home / Christian Counseling / How to Break Soul Ties with Controllers and Be Free!

How to Break Soul Ties with Controllers and Be Free!

By Phyllis Tarbox 6 Comments

break soul tiesDoes either of your parents use control to dominate and intimidate?

Do you cower in order to keep the peace?

Do you feel like a magnet that attracts controlling people?

Guess what? You probably are! 

Godly soul ties are based on love and trust.  Ungodly soul ties are based on control and manipulation.

You can have both a godly soul tie and an ungodly soul tie within the same relationship.

Any control that uses fear, guilt, or shame to manipulate you opens a door that allows demonic spirits to influence your mind, will, and emotions.

That ungodly soul tie becomes a neon sign in the spirit realm directing more demons your way.  You become a banquet table that was not set by the Lord.

Your fear is feeding a spirit of control and that control is feeding your spirit of fear.  Demons come to grow and gain torment in order to kill, steal, and destroy. (John 10:10)

My Personal Testimony of Being Controlled

I have a confession: I used to suffer from a cowering spirit of fear.  I could walk into a room of people and within five minutes every controller was headed my way.

I was once flattered when a woman said to me, “The second I saw you, I knew one day you would be my spiritual daughter!”  I felt loved initially but what followed was a controlling spirit that demanded submission.

I bought this woman a coffee cup for Mother’s Day one year that had the word “Mother” written on it with some scripture.

On the day I went through deliverance and broke that soul tie, the cup fell off her shelf and broke. The following day she brought the pieces to me demanding I replace it.  That relationship ended with her screaming, “I don’t care where you go; you will always be my spiritual daughter!”  I broke that word curse and walked away free!

The ungodly soul ties formed in your childhood open the doors for these types of people to keep coming in and out of your life.   As soon as one leaves another one shows up.  Have you recognized that pattern?  Different people same scenario?

Are you ready to be free?

You can break those soul ties today!

Make a list of the controllers and offenders that use or have used guilt, anger, and domination to control you.  Speak out loud these words:

I break every ungodly soul tie between myself and (names) and (names) and myself in the name and blood of Jesus Christ.  I apply a Jesus Christ bloodline between each one of us.

This will send a notice to the demons that you mean business.

Don’t be surprised if those on your list contact you shortly after you have broken the soul tie.  Those spirits know when their food supply is being messed with.

Now it’s time for those demons to be cast out once and for all.

Like me, you will likely need to seek counseling with someone trained in deliverance for help with this.

Just knowing there is help brings hope for change.

The lights are on now, freedom is close at hand!

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Comments

  1. Pat Rallo says

    December 16, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    Thank you for another wonderful article! Interesting that one can have both a godly soul tie and an ungodly soul tie within the same relationship.

    I can’t tell you how many people I minister to that have this issue. The bottom line is this: Control is a form if witchcraft because it takes away a person’s choice!

    Another thing I have noticed is that oftentimes the person who is allowing another to control them actually becomes the controller in a different relationship. I’m sure you have seen that, too! Keep setting the captives free!

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    • Phyllis Tarbox says

      December 17, 2014 at 4:24 pm

      Pat, Thank you as always for your encouraging comments. I totally agree that witchcraft is always behind control and its also in prayers that resound in selfish motivation. The personal testimony in this blog landed me in a counselors office and that “witchcraft” were the first words out the counselors mouth. Thank you for the insight, on those controlled becoming controllers. That makes sense! Blessings to you both, have a wonderful Christmas! Phyllis

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      • Pat Rallo says

        December 20, 2014 at 10:30 am

        Thanks, Phyllis! Merry Christmas to you all!

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        • Phyllis Tarbox says

          December 20, 2014 at 10:36 am

          Pat, thank you! Have a blessed Christmas and joy-filled New Year! Phyllis

  2. EJP says

    December 29, 2014 at 10:32 am

    Hey Phyllis, thanks for sharing your personal situation in this article. Similar as to the first comment the dichotomy of both ungodly and godly soul ties being represented in the same relationship was interesting to me. This has been a struggle for both me and my wife with our respective parents. We both seek to honor our parents in a Godly way; however we each have at least one controlling parent and it’s a struggle to find that balance sometime. I’ve come to peace with it in my own spirit however family interactions especially around the holidays can become a source of irritation for both of us. Maybe you can expand on this part of the subject when it comes to dealing with controllers (following the breaking of the ungodly soul tie) in family relationships. Thanks!

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    • Phyllis Tarbox says

      December 29, 2014 at 11:18 am

      EJP- Thank you for your comments, I am glad the blog helped clarify the soul-tie issue for you. I did write a blog that is one of our counseling sessions in a nutshell on how to deal with stress-filled atmospheres. You can apply the practices in the blog to either your own home or use as an offensive move before visiting relatives. I get asked these questions all the time when it comes to relatives, so it prompted the following blog. Sure hope this helps! Blessings to you and your wife! Phyllis
      Here is the link: https://aandbcounseling.com/7-keys-improving-spiritual-atmosphere-tense-home/?hvid=493vnB

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