Soul ties involve bondings with living beings..that is, with those things that have a soul. Webster’s defines soul as: “the immaterial essence, animating principle, or actuating cause of an individual life”. A being has a soul in that it can think and have emotions. That can include many animals, who have a soul in the respect that they can think, have memories and emotions just as humans do. If you have a dog or cat, you know that little critter has a soul! The term soul tie implies bondings of the soul.
There are two types of soul ties: godly and ungodly.
- Godly soul ties
Godly soul ties are based upon love. One of God’s highest godly bondings is between a man and a woman when they are married. The spirits are joined in the ceremony and then, per God’s sovereign plan and will, the marriage is consummated sexually when the two become one flesh…joined in body and soul. The flesh is body and soul together. We can have other godly bondings with friends and family if they are based upon love.
- Ungodly Soul Ties
We can form ungodly soul ties with anyone and these typically can happen when someone has ungodly control over us. That is, through guilt, fear or manipulation they are able to get us to do things we would otherwise not do. These are the soul ties that need to be broken in Jesus’ Name.If a friend or person controls you then there is an ungodly soul tie – mothers with daughters, fathers with sons, pastors with congregation, bosses and employees with each other, just to name a few.
Control is one of the key evidences that an ungodly soul tie has been formed. Sometimes you may not be able to see the control of the ungodly soul tie yourself. Ungodly soul ties are also created during sexual sin. The bible clearly states that sexual activity is between a man and a woman within marriage. As counselors, when asked about whether something is sexual sin, we prefer to say that the only God-ordained sexual activity is within marriage; anything outside of that is sin. 1 Cor 6:16 clearly spells out this is ungodly bonding. The bodies are joined physically but so are the souls (the “flesh”).
In deliverance ministry, we have seen that one or more ungodly soul ties with someone can be an open door for demonic torment in a person’s life. In preparation for deliverance prayer, we make sure to address all ungodly soul ties so that they are broken. In this manner, the open door for demonic torment in a person’s life is closed before the ministry time and the person will experience freedom from that.