Adultery can be a marriage-killer but it does not have to be. God can and does work healings and restorations! We have helped many counselors get back on the narrow road that leads to life!
Sadly, for many couples, the pain of this experience is the culmination of what has been a very unhappy union and many do not survive.
We had the opportunity recently to meet a young couple, Jesse & Kara Birkey, who have written a book “Marriage: What’s the Point?”
(click here for info on how to get the book) about their experiences going through this painful process. In 2008, the wife committed adultery and the book details the emotional traumas that they went through in their commitment to rebuild. Ultimately, it is a testimony of their commitment to each other, their children and the love and power of God to bring restoration.
From the Birkeys:
“The five most difficult parts of our journey:”
- Should the wronged partner (Jesse) stay or leave.
- Walking out forgiveness and overcoming bitterness
- Having Kara (the offender) be able to forgive herself
- Winning the battle of the mind as the memories surfaced
- Learning to trust again.
“What do we want people to learn?”
- There is hope! Marriages don’t have to be destroyed because of adultery.
- Married couples mindsets must be that spouses must supplement Jesus, rather than have Jesus supplement our spouses.
- Marriages expose deep rooted issues that each person brought in. Most marriage seminars/tools are not prepared to address these.
- We must expose the enemy’s attacks and infections in marriages so he can be defeated.
- We want people to truly fall in love with Jesus as we have done through all this.
See a short video interview with this couple.