Are you battling with your spouse’s words when he or she said, “You drove me to it, this is not all my fault?”
Are you ready to silence the nagging thoughts that bring unrest and keep you up all night reviewing every word?
Then it’s time to unearth where that spirit of bitterness came in to your marriage so that you can finally walk in freedom and feel what it is like to truly be loved and appreciated.
When you understand the bigger picture, the key to the jail cell rests in your hand and you can walk away free.
Bitterness, nagging and judging did not start the day you got married; you brought those spirits into your marriage. Either they came in through the bloodline and you recognize a pattern of adultery that left the men/women in your family abandoned and bitter, or you dated cheaters that left you suspicious, vulnerable, and distrusting. Maybe you have experienced both!
God Hates Divorce; Demons Love Adultery
The truth is the enemy hates marriage, and he loves divorce. His favorite tool to divide and conquer is rejection or fear of rejection.
Rejection breaks down communication. Often in counseling the offending partner will say, “I am afraid to tell the truth, because he/she won’t believe me anyway. So rather than get attacked I don’t say anything.”
That is where spirits of sabotage and suspicion cause the nagging drill of bitter questions to begin and the offending spouse to run.
I am certainly not justifying the sin of adultery, just helping you to see how bitterness from your past may have contributed to sabotaging your future.
There are always two players in the tennis match of rejection. So you have a decision to make. You can either continue to allow bitterness to claim you as the victim, or you can own your part in this match and choose to forgive him/her and drop judgment.
It will always be your choice, you own that choice. God does not want your free will and the enemy can’t have it.
Forgiveness is your first step to freedom. Perhaps, you can see the same dynamics working in his family. Was his father an adulterer? Was his mother bitter? It helps to realize that you are not battling flesh and blood, but spirits that operate through people.
If you need help sorting through this, give us a call. We’ve helped many emerge victoriously through the carnage of adultery.